I've been here, there, and everywhere...but I can't seem to keep up my will to blog about it. Here is my last-ditch attempt to collect the random writings I have already produced, and to inspire myself to future efforts.
"Christmas - that magic blanket that wraps itself about us, that something so intangible that it is like a fragrance. It may weave a spell of nostalgia. Christmas may be a day of feasting, or of prayer, but always it will be a day of remembrance - a day in which we think of everything we have ever loved."
Augusta E. Rundel
This past Christmas was only my second one away from home, and really only the second Christmas which was substantially different from those of my youth. It is something truly special to have had more or less the exact same holiday experience for 30 years. For some, this might be stifling, but I always took comfort in the sameness. It was always so reassuring to know that my family's traditions were intact. I know that some people choose to avoid family madness around the holidays, but I embrace it. That I have consciously chosen not to return home these past two years has made me deeply sad, and were choices mostly born out of inadequate funds rather than desire to strike a purposely different path from my most cherished loved ones. Those who are able to celebrate with loving families, and yet choose not to...I frankly don't understand that decision. For one so far away from her family, and without means to return home, it just seems so wasteful. Of time, of history, of love, of tradition. Of really good food, at the very least!
My Christmas this year was spent with a fellow teacher, Magda, and her family at their lovely home in the Polish countryside. They were incredibly gracious and made my Christmas a memorable and happy experience. But before we could get to the warmth and comfort of their homestead, we first had to endure 5 hours of wretched Polish public transportation.
As ever in Poland, all bus journeys are a torture, and this was no exception. It started with a steady drizzle and having to elbow our way ahead of a pack of snarling grandmas. I, being a semi-pro at elbowing old ladies, quickly got to the front of the line, acquired a ticket from the driver, and went to claim two seats near the front of the bus. Oh, what a mistake! No sooner were Magda and I ensconced in our row (across the aisle from one another, with our voluminous bags occupying the seats next to each of us) but two old women started shouting at us, waving fingers in our faces and chastising us loudly. Magda, who speaks Polish, told me that these women apparently had reservations for the very seats I had chosen (natch), and they were telling us to basically get the hell to the back of the bus where we belonged. I was more than happy to move, but the bus was quite full at this point, including the aisle, with people trying to get on and get situated. Unless we suddenly managed to sprout wings and fly over everyone's heads, we couldn't go more than one foot up the aisle towards the back. This didn't stop the old women from pushing us and doing some more shouting. Well, I never! If I could have spoken Polish, I would have told them to go get fucked. Magda, evermore polite than I, simply told them, "Sorry, but we can't move!" while they continued to harumph in our general direction. Eventually, we got to the back of the bus and squeezed ourselves and our bags into two seats. I have never been so happy to get off a bus in my life.
Once we were at Magda's house, things rapidly improved. Her mother, Grace, was a thoroughly charming woman. She was busy preparing food for the onslaught of the many meals to be had over the weekend. There were piles of fresh meat, steaming pots of soup, and veggies to be chopped as far as the eye could see. And the homemade currant wine! Ooooh, that's a happy memory, and it quite inspired me to make some of my own during the next berry season.
Magda and I were put to work more or less immediately and quite happily. Chop chop chop, into the night! Magda's mom is also a whiz at preserving things, so we were able to feast on spiced pears and plums from the last harvest. (They have a farm, with a proper root cellar that's filled with jars of delicious goodies and baskets of fresh eggs.) Speaking of the root cellar, I could never go down the steps (backwards, please!) without feeling like I was going to tumble down or crack my head on the midget-low ceiling, but Magda's grandpa fairly bounded up and down them, despite having the use of only one arm. A true wonder.
The first real night of cooking, we helped to make Greek Fish (which is white fish, covered in layers of sautéed veggies and then baked) and Polish-style cheesecake (which is softer and less dense than American-style). We also knitted a bit with grandma and drank half a jug of the homemade wine.
For Christmas Eve, we enjoyed this delicious food, along with mushroom soup, carp (super-traditional Polish Christmas dish, either loved or loathed by the natives), something akin to a veggie-packed American potato salad, mushroom/cabbage pierogi, a cabbage/bean dish, and borscht with mushroom dumplings. Wow, it was all so great! I particularly loved the borscht, which I discovered I could eat by the gallon.
A new tradition for me was the breaking of bits of Eucharist Host with each other, and individually wishing each other good things for the new year. Quite cool. Also cool was when some random boys showed up at the front door, dressed in scary masks and odd outfits. They were apparently telling some story, after which they sang a bit. Polish Christmas carolers, evidently!
After dinner, we naturally had to attend Midnight Mass. I have never been in such a ridiculously frigid church. I could see my breath. Other than that, it wasn't too different from American Catholic Masses, although there were 19 alter boys. Seriously. And they were all wearing different styles of flowy, poofy capes/gowns. I mean, with all the sex scandal problems the church has these days, putting an old man on an alter surrounded by 19 teenage boys in mini-dresses might not be the best image to send folks home with. Just sayin'.
Once done with church, I introduced Magda to my family's post-Midnight Mass custom of making breakfast. I cooked up some shredded hashed browns, which had apparently never been seen in that house before, so even grandma and grandpa had to give them a try. I think they'll be passing in future years, however. Too bizarre for them.
It's worth noting here that Magda's grandparents must have thought I was an incredibly odd person, based on my food preferences (if nothing else). For starters, like most Americans, I prefer very cold beverages. Why this should be a trait particular to Americans, I don't know. Post-War electronic appliance boom? Cold beverages a symbol of easily-attainable wealth? It's an interesting subject, and it inevitably comes up every time I ask for ice outside of the States. Europeans seem to be suspicious of cold drinks, and can usually only be pressed to provide a maximum of two ice cubes at a time, no matter how much you beg. But Grace has a giant refrigerator with an *ice dispenser*, so if you think I was going to pass that opportunity up, then you are absolutely out of your mind. The consequence, however, was that the grandparents looked at me like I was an alien with three heads most of the time. Grace, having lived in South Africa and the US, was quite understanding. She was also understanding of my desire to eat potatoes with the skins on, another moment that earned me stares of shock and horror from the grandparents and Grace's friend who had come 'round at feeding time. In Poland, Grace kindly pointed out, the eating of potato skins is something mostly reserved for pigs. Literally. sigh
Christmas Day was spent with Magda's uncle and his family, and was mostly a feast combined with endurance drinking. I held my own, proudly. The English was flying fast and loose, since her uncle works for the UN. It was quite amusing. Some girl carolers also showed up, with much better costumes and song numbers than the boys, naturally. The day passed with a bit of drama, a lot of booze, and much fun.
All too soon, it was time to leave behind the comforts of Grace's gorgeous house and generous hospitality (not to mention the enormous TV with English cable channels). The bus ride home was uncomfortable, but uneventful. After many days of pure Polish food, we decided to stop at the McDonald's in Katowice before getting on the train back to Gliwice. I hadn't been to a Mickey D's since coming to Poland, but WOW. It was the single nicest McDonald's I have ever seen in my life. It was luxurious, and I know that sounds ludicrous, but it's true. They had big, flat screen TVs hanging on the walls, dark wood, chrome, pay bathrooms. And the food was the freshest I've ever enjoyed at a fast food joint. Unbelievable. (I've since been to the one in Gliwice, and it is nearly as nice. Why don't these exist in America??)
I had an amazing Christmas, so thank you again to Magda and her family!